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Family pressure
Expectations, timelines, and the gap between what your family wants and what you want.
Meeting and matching
First meetings, what to ask, and how to tell interest from politeness.
Compatibility
Values, temperament, money, and the differences that do and do not matter.
Communication
Difficult conversations, being misread, and saying the thing you keep not saying.
Caste, religion and community
Inter-community matches, family resistance, and negotiating difference.
Money and work
Earnings gaps, relocation, careers, and who is expected to give up what.
In-laws and living together
Joint families, boundaries, and the household you are actually joining.
Second marriage
Remarriage after divorce or loss, children, and starting again.
Ending things
Calling off a match, breaking an engagement, and leaving well.
Yourself and readiness
Whether you are ready, what you actually want, and the doubts nobody says aloud.
communication

How do I tell her parents we met twice and I cannot go ahead?

We sat in that hotel lobby for forty minutes and mostly talked about her commute. Her father called my uncle this morning to ask if we should finalize the December date. Every time

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family pressure

They booked the banquet hall for November without telling us. How do I say no now?

My parents put a deposit down on a venue yesterday because they liked the date. We have only been on two coffee dates and I still do not know if I even want to marry him. My mother

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meeting and matching

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self and readiness

Everyone is saying yes because the photos look good, but what if I don't even like him?

My parents booked the banquet hall for November and we have only spoken on the phone four times. He seems fine when he asks about my job but then he sends these long WhatsApp forwa

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self and readiness

Do I actually want this or am I just tired of saying no?

We have met four times now and my parents keep asking when we are booking the hall. She is very nice and everything looks fine on paper. But every time I get into my car after dinn

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ending things

Engagement is in three weeks and my parents already paid for the hall. How do I stop this now?

We met through family in January and everyone agreed by Holi. I thought I would adjust after a few months of talking but nothing has changed. The wedding cards are sitting in my fa

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ending things

How to call off the wedding when the reception hall is already booked for November?

We met twice at a hotel lounge and talked for four hours each time. My family likes him and the advance for the caterer is already paid. Today I realized I cannot do this. How do I

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second marriage

How to tell my son she is coming?

My divorce was four years ago and my boy is now eight. I met someone last month who also has a child from her first marriage. We want to live together but my son still asks every n

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second marriage

How to tell my son she is moving in?

My divorce was four years ago and my parents found someone whose husband passed away. We met three times at a cafe near the station. My eight year old calls her aunty when she come

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in laws and living

Do we actually have to live with his parents for the first year?

We are getting married in November and the wedding cards are already printed. His mother told me yesterday we will all share the ground floor until his brother's flat is ready in 2

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money and work

She makes three times more than me and her father brought it up again. What do I do?

We met through the site last month and everything was fine until her dad asked about my exact increment for April. He wants to know if I can match her standard of living before we

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money and work

She earns double what I do and her dad just asked who pays the rent?

We met through a family match three weeks ago and everything is moving too fast. I make forty thousand a month and she clears nearly a lakh in Bombay. Her father brought up the ren

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caste religion community

My parents want her to change her last name before the wedding, what do I do?

We have booked the hall for December and her father called my uncle today to say the family name cannot appear on the reception board the way it is. She said she will not do it and

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caste religion community

My parents found out we eat different things at home. Can we fix this before the wedding?

We told both sides we are ready and the engagement is fixed for December. Yesterday my mother saw her kitchen photos and started crying because of what she keeps in the fridge. Now

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compatibility

He keeps a tight budget and I like to spend on trips, is this too big a difference?

We have spoken on the phone for three weeks and our engagement is fixed for December. He tracks every ₹100 he spends on an app and told me my weekend shopping is irresponsible. I g

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compatibility

He spends on luxury and I save every month. Can this work after marriage?

We have been talking on the phone for three months now. He booked a business class ticket for his cousin's wedding last week while I am still tracking every grocery bill on an Exce

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meeting and matching

We met twice at a cafe and his parents are asking for our final answer by Sunday, how do I know if he actually likes me?

We had two coffee meetings of forty-five minutes each. Both times he said whatever his parents decided is fine with him. He replied to all my questions with one-word answers and ke

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communication

How to tell him I don't want the big wedding his mother planned?

We met three times and his mother has already booked the hall for November. Every time I try to say I want something small, he nods and says his family has a reputation to maintain

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family pressure

They booked the hall before we even spoke on the phone. How do I say no now?

My parents gave my number to a family living three lanes away and now everyone is saying yes. We spoke for twenty minutes yesterday and we want completely different things after ma

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self and readiness

Do I actually want to get married or do I just want the noise to stop?

My parents booked the hall for December and we have been out for coffee four times now. I sat across from him yesterday and tried to care about his career change but my mind was co

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