She makes three times my salary and now wants me to move. How do this?

Moving for a spouse before the wedding fixes your career trajectory to a single city on the basis of a family request. A government job at fifteen lakhs gives you stability and a specific transfer timeline, whereas her tech salary of forty-five lakhs gives her geographic mobility that yours simply does not match. Relocating now means you shoulder the disruption of leaving your posting, while the marriage is still in the proposal stage. You need to tell her father and her directly that a transfer cannot happen before the wedding is formalized and completed. You can say that your department requires a minimum tenure for a transfer application to go through, and uprooting your career preemptively creates an imbalance in how decisions are made in the household. If they press for an answer before next month, you must let the timeline slip rather than agree to a move you resent. The cost of pushing back is that her family may view you as inflexible, and the wedding might stall or fall through entirely. That friction is the price of establishing early on that your professional life holds equal weight in the partnership, despite the income gap. Let her know that you are willing to look at city options together after you are legally married and have a joint household established, but not as a pre-condition set by her family. If the relationship cannot withstand a delay for the sake of your career stability, finding that out now saves you from a much larger imbalance later.