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She earns double and says I have to move cities. What do I do?

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We got engaged last month and now she wants me to quit my job here and find something in her city before the wedding in December. My salary is forty thousand and hers is nearly a lakh. I don't want to start from zero in a place where I know nobody just because she makes more.

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Moving cities and leaving a stable job right before your wedding is a massive disruption, especially when the financial gap between your salaries makes you feel like your career is being treated as secondary. Your hesitation to start over in an unfamiliar place where you have no social network is completely practical, not just an ego issue about who brings home more money. You need to sit down with her and separate the logistics of the move from the wedding timeline. December is only a few months away, which is an unreasonable window to quit, relocate, and find a stable job without panicking. Tell her clearly that you are willing to discuss relocating eventually, but not until you have secured a comparable position or at least a concrete offer in hand. If she insists that you must quit blindly just to be there before the wedding, you need to involve your families now to mediate this expectation. Postponing the wedding by a few months to sort out your employment is a far better option than starting a marriage with resentment over forced unemployment.

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