My mother-in-law involves herself in everything. How do I set a boundary?

The core of this challenge isn't your mother-in-law's actions, but your husband's inability to see them as a problem. For any boundary to hold, you both need to agree on where the line is. Start by having calm, private conversations with him, focusing on how her actions make *you* feel, rather than criticising her intent. Help him understand that while she may mean well, her involvement is making you feel unheard in your own space, and that you two need to define your joint space together. The dynamic of a partner dismissing a spouse’s feelings about family intrusion is not tied to gender; the roles here could easily be reversed, and the challenge would remain the same. Once he understands, even a little, you can approach things gently. For instance, if your mother-in-law begins rearranging your room, you or he could offer a polite, "Thank you, Maa, but we actually prefer to keep things just so." When she comments on your cooking, a simple, "This is how we enjoy it today!" can work. Regarding plans, your husband can take the lead by saying, "We'll let you know once our plans are firm." These are not confrontational statements, but quiet assertions of your shared space and decisions. These small, consistent responses, delivered with respect and a gentle smile, reinforce your boundaries without creating conflict. It will take time, and it will feel uncomfortable initially, but it’s a way to build a respectful distance while maintaining harmony in your home. The goal is not to push anyone away, but to create space for your new family unit to thrive.